one hundred sixty six days to go ...

that's how many days it is until Sept. 3. I know this because my wedding website manager, "THE KNOT" gives me the daily count down, as well as a list of to do's before the wedding. All of a sudden I'm starting to feel nervous! Not about getting married, I'm thrilled about that. But about the details that THE KNOT is telling me not to forget. I had 331 items to do, and 75 items "overdue" Things like:

• Hash out your wedding flower proposal. Decide on your floral style, choose the right wedding flowers, and negotiate prices with florist. Once you're certain the contract outlines everything you agreed upon, sign it.
• Grooms: Decide what type of formalwear (tux, suit, casual button-down and slacks) you'll wear and look through formalwear photos to get an idea of what you want.
• Book a calligrapher in your area (if you're using one).
• Choose and reserve all tables, chairs, and any other wedding rentals you'll need for the reception (unless the caterer or site is taking care of it).
• Grooms: Start planning your groomsmen's attire. Tuxes or suits?
• Grooms: Start looking to buy or rent your tux, suit, or other formal attire.
• Book the rehearsal dinner site and finalize menu plans.
• Book a hotel room for your wedding night.
• Make sure your out-of-town guests know all the details. Add hotel reservation and city information to your wedding website and/or compile hard copies and mail out.
• Book your honeymoon flights (if not using frequent flyer miles) and make all your other honeymoon travel reservations.
• Start addressing wedding invitations or drop them off with the calligrapher (you'll need to send them out at the three-month mark).
• Grooms: Decide on your groomsmen's formalwear. Let the guys know and ask them to get fitted for their tuxes (if need be).
• Brides: Choose your bridesmaids' accessories (shoes, jewelry) and either buy or pass along purchasing information.
• Pick out or design a ketubah or other marriage contract required by your religion.

Luckily, a lot of these don't apply to us (no wedding party; we have electronic invitations) and since we're queer, our families don't really expect anything from us in form of tradition, religion or ettiquette ..... They will probably just be happy to live through it.

Good news is, we have two honeymoon trips planned and mostly paid for, a wedding venue, a cake, florist, hair stylist, officiant, and mistress of ceremony all set up. Our 10 yr old daughter will serve as Maid of Honor. It's all good, I'm just having an OMG moment here about the LIST.